Hello all,
Yes, it's been quite sometime since I last posted. Months even. I had a spare few minutes tonight and thought I'd give a holler of a hello to all.
Brief run down on what's happening before the bulk of tonights blog.
During the past few months, I've fallen head over heels with lust - then fell out entirely, (more on this later) fractured a finger and still realising maybe Arts isn't me at all.
But to the point of tonight's blog.
I have never been the biggest advocate for relationships at such a young age, so all my thoughts are based upon my experiences and mainly my observations.
I've been thinking a lot lately about this notion of 'teenage love'
Personally, I think it's a load of crap.
Some of people I know of are getting engaged before they are 18!
I could not imagine even settling down before completing university, let alone promise my life to another human being before I'm an adult.
Then you get the 15 year olds that have been a relationship for a month and are going to be with that person "forever and ever" or love a certain person "more than anything else." More importantly month later guess who's not loving each other anymore. At 15 nobody has "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person" (as defined by the online dictionary). However, the one that makes me cringe the most "I love (so and so) more than life itself" So, they love this person more than their parents? Let alone their own life. I would not be killing myself over someone I've known for a month in true "romantic" Romeo and Juliet style. All the story that Romeo and Juliet showed, is how stupid teenagers can be - there was nothing worth loving in that relationship.
I think that the word 'love' has lost it's meaning to the generation Y's, and therefore made it so mediocre; it numbs the senses.
I think these teenyboppers need to have a serious reality check and keep their eyes focused on what is important at their tender age.
Don't get me mistaken, I'm not dismissing relationships. I think they are a crucial part of growing up throughout adolecence, I just want pre-teens/teens to stop throwing the word love around so carelessly without considering the consequences.
I think love to these teens is getting confused with a combination of lust, lonliness, hormones and the need to take ones clothes off.
At 18, life should be about discovering yourself; and what you want. Not planning a wedding or even considering a family.
Next time you (mainly infering teens) say "I love this person" think, do you really know what love is?
This is all in my opinion of course
Shel xx
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Identity crisis (in a nutshell)
Hey,
Today (yes, today) my precious Lenny is going overseas to go frolic in the fields with the cows - yes, I will miss her tremendously.
Last night I managed to do something I haven't done in a very long time. Read.
I miss reading, and now I have realised my attention span is lost after a few pages which is tragic so I am working on building it up to it's peak last year. It's peak being reading Frankenstein the night before the SAC. That's something I will forever be proud of.
I did some research the other night on an identity crisis. I'm not personally at one now, but it is defiantly knocking on the door. It's very common amongst teenagers aspiring for adult hood. It's a fascinating concept that has beyond stricken me of words.
But who is to blame for identity being lost, really?
Do we blame ourselves, celebrities, parents, friends?
I think it's a combination of all the above.
Here is why I think so.
Friends - Our friends are meant to love us for who we are. But, I have realised within my friendship groups I am continually changing to meet the demands of the social cliques. I have stressed this many times to Sam, that my friends are friends in different zones that need to be separated. Work stays with work, school with school and alike. I am a different Shel amongst different cliques. If we weren't chopping and changing so many times within our friendship groups our personalities wouldn't have to undergo such a demanding stress and therefore lead to confusion.
I think it is beyond idiotic to think you don't change for certain friends, is it that you avoid topics entirely, or avoid certain activities? - regardless that's a personality change we have to undergo.
Celebrities - Those who know me, know I am not easily swayed by things like the latest fads. But, I'm not saying I'm not at all affected by some of the things in the media related to the celebrities. The covers on magazines and unrealistic images that are forced into society are the loose stitching of aspiration holding a crumbing society together. You always want to be thinner, prettier etc. So trying to become something you're not is another reason why I think that celebrities are part reason for identity crisis.
Parents - I always try and do right by my parents. If they ask me not to do something, I won't etc. I trust their judgment and experience with situations. But, then again all this pressure on doing things we are not meant to do, restricts the ability to be free. Freedom, and the ability to be free is something that is often taken for granted. Being able to learn from mistakes develops our personalities more, and encourages us to discover who we are.
Ourselves - are the major reason we have identity crisis'. We can blame the solely on the prior, but deep down these problems are only brought together by one catalyst; ourselves. It's a shame that this is so, because in society blame is easily placed on others and pushed onto things out of our control - when deep down we control it. We are hiding from ourselves, and therefore hiding from the world. We try to supress the things we aren't proud of, the things that make us who we are.
The three prior premises can all be cancelled out through ourselves. You can be yourself around all your friends, disobey your parents and ignore the celebrities influx within civilisation; but who is really like that.
The world is essentially an identity crisis because nobody knows who the real you, or me, or grocer around the corner is.
Think about that.
These are just my thoughts on the topic and the inevitable identity crisis will undergo soon enough (in a nutshell)
Love Shel xx
(thanks Yagana for the text just then. I don't follow soccer :P)
Today (yes, today) my precious Lenny is going overseas to go frolic in the fields with the cows - yes, I will miss her tremendously.
Last night I managed to do something I haven't done in a very long time. Read.
I miss reading, and now I have realised my attention span is lost after a few pages which is tragic so I am working on building it up to it's peak last year. It's peak being reading Frankenstein the night before the SAC. That's something I will forever be proud of.
I did some research the other night on an identity crisis. I'm not personally at one now, but it is defiantly knocking on the door. It's very common amongst teenagers aspiring for adult hood. It's a fascinating concept that has beyond stricken me of words.
But who is to blame for identity being lost, really?
Do we blame ourselves, celebrities, parents, friends?
I think it's a combination of all the above.
Here is why I think so.
Friends - Our friends are meant to love us for who we are. But, I have realised within my friendship groups I am continually changing to meet the demands of the social cliques. I have stressed this many times to Sam, that my friends are friends in different zones that need to be separated. Work stays with work, school with school and alike. I am a different Shel amongst different cliques. If we weren't chopping and changing so many times within our friendship groups our personalities wouldn't have to undergo such a demanding stress and therefore lead to confusion.
I think it is beyond idiotic to think you don't change for certain friends, is it that you avoid topics entirely, or avoid certain activities? - regardless that's a personality change we have to undergo.
Celebrities - Those who know me, know I am not easily swayed by things like the latest fads. But, I'm not saying I'm not at all affected by some of the things in the media related to the celebrities. The covers on magazines and unrealistic images that are forced into society are the loose stitching of aspiration holding a crumbing society together. You always want to be thinner, prettier etc. So trying to become something you're not is another reason why I think that celebrities are part reason for identity crisis.
Parents - I always try and do right by my parents. If they ask me not to do something, I won't etc. I trust their judgment and experience with situations. But, then again all this pressure on doing things we are not meant to do, restricts the ability to be free. Freedom, and the ability to be free is something that is often taken for granted. Being able to learn from mistakes develops our personalities more, and encourages us to discover who we are.
Ourselves - are the major reason we have identity crisis'. We can blame the solely on the prior, but deep down these problems are only brought together by one catalyst; ourselves. It's a shame that this is so, because in society blame is easily placed on others and pushed onto things out of our control - when deep down we control it. We are hiding from ourselves, and therefore hiding from the world. We try to supress the things we aren't proud of, the things that make us who we are.
The three prior premises can all be cancelled out through ourselves. You can be yourself around all your friends, disobey your parents and ignore the celebrities influx within civilisation; but who is really like that.
The world is essentially an identity crisis because nobody knows who the real you, or me, or grocer around the corner is.
Think about that.
These are just my thoughts on the topic and the inevitable identity crisis will undergo soon enough (in a nutshell)
Love Shel xx
(thanks Yagana for the text just then. I don't follow soccer :P)
Sunday, May 30, 2010
First Blog of ness.
Hello all!
Quick insight. I'm 18, currently at University doing a double degree in Arts/Secondary Education. I think I want to be a teacher, I'm not 100% sure anymore.
I work in a deli, slicin' up your meats and I tend to be a little eccentric.
A little mosaic, and a little more messed up.
I'd decided to start a blog for two reasons. a) one of my dear friends Yags was going on about starting one and b) now I have two months break from uni and without something to do...I will die.
I have currently discovered my insane love for food. Not the whole, eating it non stop and somewhat resembling PacMan but more so the delights of food. Dad and I are heading up to the Food and Wine festival next Saturday - then probably the casino. Pssh, I'm 18 - it's so cool now.
Anyway, I'm rather excited about it. All the smells, flavours, people!
In association with my food fetish, I have started midnight baking. Yes, literally baking at midnight. Most of the time it is muffins etc, but I have been making cakes too.
Ah, the joys of being ridiculously messed up :P
I'm currently sick. I'm in the stage where I can't shake off this cold and haven't been able to for a few weeks. *shake shake shake* it's okay, I'm always sick.
On top of that, I have an exam due tomorrow. Yes, a 1500 word exam which I have no clue on and I have 478 down!
The delights of university!
Wooot woot.
It's something death related, which is kinda coincidental seeing as I feel like death.
So, yes I am procrastinating. But, it's ok. Because...it just is!
So it's pretty cold in Melbourne at the moment. Good thing I have a bed, with a blanket smothered in love and affection.
Short intro blog today, but I bid thee farewell until I finish this exam!
Love Shel xx
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